Volume 3: Reviews
Life is a web of relationships. Your relationship with spirit, with the world, your friends, parents, children, partner and most importantly, your relationship with self, will determine whether life is a joy or a burden. If you are tangled up in the relationship web rather than dancing on it, you will find the answers in Volume III of the Toltec Teachings series by Théun Mares.
In a world where relationships and sexuality are spinning out of control, Volume III restores the order. I've read many relationship books and I thought I had heard it all, but this Volume shatters myth after myth of what relationships are all about, and it became clear to me that while we have been working earnestly at making men and women equal – an imperative move to be sure – we also lost the plot. Do you know what the gender differences are and why they are there? If you do, do you laugh at those differences, shake your fist at them, attempt to ignore them, or resist them, or do you use them consciously? I have to admit I had never explored with my partner how the genders are different, how our roles are different, and how to harness this constructively, in a way that deepens love, respect and commitment, and results in something most magical. Since reading the concepts, simple in complexity, yet rich and profound in meaning, and then applying them in my own life, and seeing my clients apply them in theirs, I can tell you emphatically that these concepts work. They change lives. They restore broken relationships, help you leave the ones that will never serve you, and will show you how to attract and create new ones that surpass any you have been in before.
From reading and re-reading this book I have learned that, as a male, I have a unique and important responsibility in this life. I realized that I have not been fulfilling this responsibility, much less my potential. This volume left me feeling both inspired and clear on the direction I needed to take to move forward. This is a lot to get from one book, but if you are ready, and you are willing to place the concepts in action, it will take you there. And if you go there, your relationships will too.
Otis Woodard - USA
In this volume of the Toltec Teachings we are taken on a journey — the wonder-filled journey of life. And if you really want to, you can make your life just that.
This book starts out by helping us look at how we relate to life. In a very simple way we are given guidance on how we can learn to relate to ourselves and to those around us. When it comes to the thorny topic of handling relationships only the simpleton fails to find the gifts in being simple. Then too, simple does not imply being easy.
For example, how do you relate if you are male and how do you relate if you are female? Contrary to what you are hearing in popular culture today, there is a difference. And in this book Théun Mares gives us these differences in a way that shows us how we can use them to learn to relate to one another. He covers the myths that we have all been brought up with in learning to be male or female. But these myths just don’t work if we want to become true to our gender, and they have only led to a continuing battle of the sexes that goes nowhere in building real relationships.
If you find this book uplifting, and would like a more challenging read, go on to read the other books by Théun Mares. Then come back and re-read this one. I did, and I found this one to be just as challenging. However, by putting into practice the various techniques, I have found that my relationships have been transformed beyond measure.
Theodore Reimer - USA
Whilst growing up it is a question of whether one has an "in-nie" or an "out-tie" that really matters. Yet is this not equally true today and, well, don't we wonder why? Or were we born only to please, infatuate, or perhaps argue with the opposite sex?
A number of years ago I first came across the Toltec Teaching series by Théun Mares, and have continued to read and work with these books ever since. The perspectives gained throughout this time continue to be extremely beneficial, even though there have been a few bumps in the road. Yet this is arguably the key message within this book, namely, take the time to get to know yourself, for what you discover just might amaze you, it may even amuse you! On the other hand, if you already KNOW yourself then there are a few laughs for you!
While providing ample examples of hilarious insight into human folly, throughout Volume III Théun Mares leads one to examine in depth the nature of gender, the relative factor of awareness and of particular interest, the keys to happiness! He offers guidance on how to develop those questions which help lead one to finding his or her own value and values in life, and encourages us to remember that life is not some random affair.
What once appeared to me as an appealing theory is now becoming a real and solid foundation in which to relate more meaningfully with the world I live in. As a working professional I often find these teachings to bear special relevance within my life, as all of us must learn how to handle conflict, feelings of inferiority/superiority, and issues relating to gender and self-fulfillment. It is time for humanity as a whole to grow-up, and Théun Mares shows us how.
Jared Windhauser – USA
This remarkable book by Théun Mares turned all the ideas I had of being a woman in the new millennium upside down. It debunks all the gender and relationship myths that I heard growing up, and does it in a no-nonsense approach.
When I first read the book, a few years ago, it challenged me on the beliefs I held, and frankly pushed a couple of buttons. Since then I got married and started to struggle with my relationship with my husband. So, I read the book again and it was like a light bulb going on. I squirmed upon realizing how many mistakes I had been making. My husband and I have both read the book, and through applying the concepts to our lives, it is making a true difference to the quality of our relationship. Théun encourages us to take responsibility for our particular roles, and build from there.
It’s a book I come back to time and time again, for it’s an invaluable guide whenever I feel that I am struggling with myself, or with any other relationship in my life.
Damini Chung - CANADA
Théun Mares successfully takes on the challenge to present complex teachings in a no-nonsense, reader-friendly approach. In Part One of this volume, in a charmingly humorous style, Mares persuades and enables you to dig deeper into the events that transpire in your life to learn about the purpose of your life. Irresistible!
Parts Two and Three of this volume are a must-read for every woman who wants to finally understand why she feels the way she feels, and for every man who dares to learn about himself! Mares makes no apology in explaining ancient universal truths about the differences between the genders, whether you are ready for this or not! Mares also reveals the keys to meaningful relationships between men and women.
Mayra Colón - USA
Life's a bitch. Well that's not true now, but it was until I started to look at the behaviour and attitudes of the people in my life as mirrors of myself and my own behaviour, and then upon realizing that if I wanted my mirrors to change, I needed to start changing myself. Mad I know, but it works! Using this practical book has made my life more fun!
Ladies, the true female Théun Mares describes in Part Three of this book has something I want. I want it enough to find within me the willingness to stop trying to tell all the men in my life what to do, and to start trying to find out what the feminine side of me really thrives on, as opposed to the controlling mother. You will love this book, or you will hate it. There is only one way to find out which! And if you want the man in your life to become a real male, leave Part Two of this book open on the coffee table.
Katy Longstaff – United Kingdom
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